7 Things Richard Feynman’s Love Letter Can Teach Us About Love

He wrote a letter to his wife sixteen months after her death

Camille Allard


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Richard Feynman was a curious man. “I’m an explorer, OK? I like to find out!” His curiosity won him the Nobel Prize for physics in 1965.

Richard and his wife, Arline Greenbaum, were soul mates.

His love for life gave him the status of an American cultural icon. Feynman wrote many love letters to his wife, Arline.

He wrote to his wife, his daughter Michelle, scientists, fans, students, crackpots as well as strangers. Michelle Feynman collected his words in a book, Perfectly Reasonable Deviations from the Beaten Track.

He discussed everything from the Manhattan Project to developments in quantum physics and grade-school textbooks in these letters. He wrote with clarity, grace, humor, and optimism.

“Physics isn’t the most important thing. Love is.” ~ Richard P. Feynman

Of these letters, the most beautiful is the one Richard wrote to his wife Arline sixteen months after her death.

October 17, 1946


I adore you, sweetheart.

I know how much you like to hear that — but I don’t only write it because you like it — I write it because it makes me warm all over inside to write it to you.

It is such a long time since I last wrote to you — almost two years, but I know you’ll excuse me because you understand how I am, stubborn and realistic; and I thought there was no sense to writing.

But now I know my darling wife that it is right to do what I have delayed in doing, and that I have done so much in the past. I want to tell you I love you. I want to love you. I always will love you.



Camille Allard

A nineteen year old French girl, living in London. I write about love, psychology, and sexology.